Wow, I have been busy. And then, when I got some time to blog, I had trouble with blogger. It was a few days ago. Still, no excuse, really.
Anyway, I am having some problems with my daughter, and it's getting me down a little bit. She just gets so much face time with Kara that I am clearly the second fiddle. Last weekend, when I took care of her for, like, 24 hours she got to the point of really enjoying me and doing "mommie" things with me. However, as soon as Kara came back into the picture, there are things she just won't do.
For example, she doesn't like me to feed her when she's a bit cranky, especially close to bedtime. This is particularly disappointing because when we started this adventure, I was the only one who could give her a bottle. She also gets cranky when I hold her, but then calms right down when Kara takes her. Kara's being a trooper about it, but I'm disappointed, because I can't seem to help during these times.
Well, I know it's just probably a phase, but for a few brief moments, here and there, I've had the full on baby experience, and it's been good. There have been a few occassions of role reversal, and that's healthy for Kara and I. For example, Kara sometimes gets frustrated with me, because I get frustrated with Katherine, because I come home and I can only get 20 or 30 minutes of quality time with her before a chain of events carries the evening away. It usually goes like this. I play with her, then we have to eat, then either Kara or I gives her a bath, and there's probably a feeding in there, but sometimes I can't do that, and then she goes into an hour or so of "pre-sleep" crankiness, and then bedtime. So I get frustrated because after that initial playtime (and the bath, I suppose), I can't interact with her without her getting cranky and wanting mommy.
But Kara has experienced this too, on at least one occassion when she's gone out. The other side of the issue is that when you are with her all day, you get so much good because she's up and awake, that the natural progression of the evening chores and eventual crankiness is no big deal, and luckily I've experienced that as well too.
Anyway, I am having some problems with my daughter, and it's getting me down a little bit. She just gets so much face time with Kara that I am clearly the second fiddle. Last weekend, when I took care of her for, like, 24 hours she got to the point of really enjoying me and doing "mommie" things with me. However, as soon as Kara came back into the picture, there are things she just won't do.
For example, she doesn't like me to feed her when she's a bit cranky, especially close to bedtime. This is particularly disappointing because when we started this adventure, I was the only one who could give her a bottle. She also gets cranky when I hold her, but then calms right down when Kara takes her. Kara's being a trooper about it, but I'm disappointed, because I can't seem to help during these times.
Well, I know it's just probably a phase, but for a few brief moments, here and there, I've had the full on baby experience, and it's been good. There have been a few occassions of role reversal, and that's healthy for Kara and I. For example, Kara sometimes gets frustrated with me, because I get frustrated with Katherine, because I come home and I can only get 20 or 30 minutes of quality time with her before a chain of events carries the evening away. It usually goes like this. I play with her, then we have to eat, then either Kara or I gives her a bath, and there's probably a feeding in there, but sometimes I can't do that, and then she goes into an hour or so of "pre-sleep" crankiness, and then bedtime. So I get frustrated because after that initial playtime (and the bath, I suppose), I can't interact with her without her getting cranky and wanting mommy.
But Kara has experienced this too, on at least one occassion when she's gone out. The other side of the issue is that when you are with her all day, you get so much good because she's up and awake, that the natural progression of the evening chores and eventual crankiness is no big deal, and luckily I've experienced that as well too.
posted by David at
7:45 PM
